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CALL TO ACTION

LET’S get to moving and shaking the world around us. Let’s write a prayer, a request (the talking part), and then listen for the Voice, our core (our gut), to answer; the next step is to ACT. We have to be brave and “fall forward”. Failing is success. Success is success.

Here is my prayer for today: a prayer of thanks. (WATCH FOR THE NEXT FEW BLOGS TO BE OUTRIGHT ACTIONS–that means you have to come back and read what I have to say next).

Thank you my Elohim, Father, for waking me up this morning, inspired and ready for the next challenge, battle, gift, you have for me. Thank you for your for being my armor, my guidance, my inspiration, my first glimpse of real Love and Life, my healer, my greatest physician (my only physician), my best counselor, my biggest pillow, my most patient listener, and my spiritual rock. You are the only voice that stays constant, that rules my heart and head, that keeps my gut (my core) the ruling part. I know that the gut is always your voice, no matter what, and the heart is the following part. You, oh Father, are the greatest thing that every happened to me, and have blessed me with some of the greatest people, family, things on earth. Riches are not in earthly things, but rather you are in riches. Here we go Father! I want to be your advocate. I want to be your feet on this earth, creating paths for people to walk toward you; YOU want this for me (that is why I want this). Our failings are in “I wants” except when we “want” you and your walk. I will take no credit for myself; if I gain fame or popularity, I will keep on keep’in on, and know it is all for you to be known to the world; it is for every part and piece, before your great entrance back onto this earth comes. If I stay low key, the same abides in me, keep on keep’in on. Will you please lead me to take the things meant for action, off the page, out of head, and be rid of the “I don’t like the sound of my voice on video”, and the poor excuses, and the “I don’t know how” goofball statements lying to my heart and head.? Would you help me practice each day one new thing with my video camera, live feed, blogging, and other things I have issues with, and cause them to be strengths? I believe you are already working in me. I have a schedule for blogging (hate computer sit down jobs) and I have visions and ideas for great short video blogs/live streaming on Facebook, etc. I have a written plan for creating times to speak to moms groups and home school groups, and other places to make a name out there. I know you have set me on a path the past two years, and I am ready to put it all into another gear higher (and speed scares me). I am going to do this stuff. I Love you Oh Father. In the name of the Messiah, Lord over me, I say AMEN.

Primary Foods: Relationships

The article is so right on…It is the most correct of any thing anyone can ever say or advise. IT is the truth. It may feel awful or we may want to deny it all, but it is the truth. Health is not just what is going on with your body, or what is on your plate. The primary foods are relationships, spirituality, career, and physical activity. This article gets to the core and makes the point that it is only in true individuality that we figure things out and make things better. It cannot be done by anyone but the two involved. Each one has to come to the individual realizations and then reconnect. Once we regain this ability to take away expectations, not only will our relationships change, but our health as well. Be healthy.

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Three kinds of expectations

It’s still the most surprising thing Becky has ever said to me.

“OK,” she declared. “I’ve decided to lower my expectations of you.”

Becky has a theory and after two decades together I’m convinced she’s right: Most conflict and unhappiness in relationships comes from three kinds of expectations.

Unreasonable

Sometimes our expectations are unreasonable. In the early days of our marriage Becky expected a certain standard of living but also expected me to be more available to her than I could be with a full-time job. I expected us to always have sex as often as we did on our honeymoon. We both find ourselves expecting too much from our kids today – a seven year-old is going to forget his coat at school sometimes. And it will be on the coldest day of the year. It’s just going to happen.

Sometimes the expectations we have for those we love are too lofty or misplaced entirely. Becky’s taught me to change, lower, or completely do away with those expectations that can bring resentment and frustration into our marriage.

Unclear

Sometimes our expectations are reasonable but not communicated well…or at all. A friend of mine recently blew up at his wife because she never initiates sex. At the same time, it turned out, his wife had been harboring resentment against him for never taking her out on a date.

Dates and sex and compliments and a day off and flowers and…and a lot of other good things just mean more to us if we don’t have to ask for them, right? We think that if someone really loves us, really cares, really understands us, then they’ll just know what we need. And we’re wrong. Love does not give us the super power to read minds.

How many expectations could be met if we would only communicate them clearly?

Unmet

Sometimes we get it right. Our expectations are reasonable and clear. But they’re still not being met.

Man, does that hurt. I feel devalued. I take it personally. I’ve learned from Becky’s example to clearly communicate that, too.

Unexpected

“I’ve decided to lower my expectations of you,” Becky said. What a gift that was! I no longer felt like a failure. I felt lighter. But I also wanted more than ever to be a better husband. I wanted to meet her expectations, no matter how high.

It’s still surprising how being expected to do less motivated me to do more. Maybe that’s just me. But maybe not. Maybe the people in your life will exceed your expectations, too, if you take the time to adjust your expectations of them first.

Source: The Art of Simple